This is a cross post from © 2013 ChooseHelp.com who welcomes republishing of their content on condition that you credit Choose Help and the author, David Earl Johnson, LICSW. This article is licensed under a Creative Commons License. How to Break a Bad Habit, Like Cigarette Smoking Bad habits come in many different forms. There are minor and major bad habits. Minor bad habits include procrastination, fidgeting, overspending, and nail biting for example.
I quit smoking 28 years ago. The final effort started the previous year on “Great American Smokeout“, 29 years ago. I’m very glad I succeeded. I used to joke that quitting smoking was easy, I’d done it 100s of times. Unfortunately it was all too true. I struggled with attempts to quite smoking over most of my adult years. It’s a major bad habit, with the further complication of addiction to Nicotine.
This is the third in a series of articles on emotional intelligence for personal growth. Self-awareness is one of the most important benefits we get from spending time in a mindful state. The longer we are able to stay mindful, the more we learn about our selves. We come to recognize the ebb and flow of our thoughts, moods, emotions and impulses. We begin to see relationships between our thoughts and feelings and external events.
_ This is the second in a series of articles on emotional intelligence for personal growth. The first part is here._ Mindfulness is a non-judgmental, present-centered awareness in which each thought, feeling, or sensation that arises is acknowledged and accepted as it is. It is a skill that is learned by committed practice. The object is to focus one’s attention on thoughts, feelings and events in the present moment while remaining curious, open, and accepting whatever occurs.
This is the first in a series of articles on the topic of emotional intelligence for personal growth. I got this quote in one of those anonymous emails that has been forwarded through thousands of inboxes all over the planet: “Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘..holy sh*t ….what a ride!
Tonight the New York Times reported on very sad story about an Australian woman who went to a self-help course called Turning Point with her husband in hopes of improving their marriage. Over the next few days, according to her husband, her behavior became increasingly strange until without warning, she jumped out of her office window and successfully committed suicide while stunned paramedics watched unable to move fast enough. Image via Wikipedia According to the article, the Turning Point program by People Knowhow run by unlicensed staff and includes group induction of hypnosis and/or regression where persons in the audience are encouraged to imagine themselves as children and encouraged to re-experience trauma.
Many of the boomer adults were raised with a lot of TV. It would appear things have gotten worse. We know a lot more about what TV does to children, but it doesn’t appear to have had much effect. Simple logic will tell us that the experience of TV will decrease a child’s ability to tolerate a delay in gratification of desires. Certainly, the TV ads are designed to create the desire for things we didn’t know we needed, a certain frustration that we can’t have it all, now.
We’ve all heard about viruses and websites that steal our sensitive private information. Cyberstalking has also become a problem on social media sites. Blogs, Twitter, MySpace and Facebook, in particular, are prone to this sort of abuse. Image by luc legay via Flickr But even cellphone texting can be a problem since you can forward others details where ever you want. Although there are mixed reviews of just how much of a risk there is, there is agreement there is a risk.
Are you shy? Find networking very difficult? Rather stay at home, or watch from a distance? Here is a great slide set and blog post from Sacha Chua. Check it out: The Shy Connector View more documents from Sacha Chua.